Dear Friend,
I am writing you this email to explain something very important. I dont expect you to fully understand why, or yet even understand me after this. All I can ask is for you to keep an open mind in this matter.
My problem is that I have felt something wrong with me for a very long time, I have felt that my femminine side of me is stronger than my male side... My male side has allways had to push these feminine feelings away to survive in life. I have never felt like my true self and for one reason alone... Because my true self is female.
The medical term for this is called Transgenderism, something you have witnessed on Ally McBeal very recently. After seeking advice on this I have realised that I am female at heart and now I intend to have a sex change.
I understand that you may now feel uncomfertable about this, The truth is I have felt uncomfertable about telling you my secret as we have talked before about this subject about other people and I quote "shotgun them all".
I hope you can come to understand me and accept me as I go through this process. I have had these feelings since I was 6 years old and although I seem very masculine thats because its how I've been brought up and although I love some of these things and never intend to stop doing them, my life is incomplete and I can never have as much fun as I would have if I were female.
Over the next few years I am going to be changing myself, my appearance, my voice and my attitude, I will be seeking therapy on the NHS so I can begin to start the sex change process and so I can transition to female.
I would like to say that you have been one of my best friends throughout the years and I want things to stay that way, I hope you can accept me as I try to become who I really am.
I will not bring this up again until you are ready to talk about it, If you have any questions you would like answered or any information just ask me...
Just remember, I wouldnt be asking to preserve our friendship if I expected you to be any different towards me, I just want you to be yourself towards me and hope that we can meet half way.
Rick
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